Just when you had reclaimed your energy and started focusing on your own life, a familiar notification pops up. He’s back. The person who pulled away, leaving a space of silence and confusion, has decided to re-enter your orbit. It’s a moment filled with mixed emotions, and when you turn to your tarot deck for guidance and pull the Queen of Wands, the universe is sending a vibrant and powerful message. This card is the embodiment of confidence, magnetism, and passionate self-assurance. She doesn’t chase; she attracts.
When the Queen of Wands appears as he comes back after pulling away, the fast answer is that your own radiant energy and self-focus have drawn him back in. This card signifies that while he was gone, you didn’t just wait; you thrived. You embodied the Queen of Wands’ energy—becoming more magnetic, confident, and engaged with your own life. His return is a direct response to your irresistible glow. The card advises you to stay centered in your power and not to let his return diminish the vibrant independence you have cultivated.
Table of Contents
- What Does the Queen of Wands Represent in a Reading?
- Upright Queen of Wands: He’s Drawn to Your Fire
- Reversed Queen of Wands: A Return Fueled by Ego
- The Powerful Symbolism of the Queen of Wands
- Why Your Confidence is the Ultimate Magnet
- Is His Return Genuine or Fleeting?
- How to Handle His Return Like a Queen
- Queen of Wands as a Sign to Stay True to Yourself
- Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
- Conclusion
What Does the Queen of Wands Represent in a Reading?
Before we explore his return, we must honor the Queen herself. The Queen of Wands is a force of nature, ruled by the element of Fire. She is charismatic, courageous, and fiercely independent. She is the social butterfly, the passionate creator, the person who lights up a room simply by entering it. When I see her in a reading, she represents a person who is comfortable in their own skin, who leads with warmth, and who is not afraid to pursue their desires. In love, she is a loyal and enthusiastic partner, but she will never sacrifice her own identity or passions for a relationship. She demands a partner who can match her energy, not tame it.
Her emotional state is one of optimistic self-assurance, a theme further explored in the article on the Queen of Wands as feelings.
Upright Queen of Wands: He’s Drawn to Your Fire
Seeing the upright Queen of Wands in this context is a powerful affirmation of your own journey. His return is a direct consequence of the work you’ve done on yourself. While he was distant, you stepped into your power. You focused on your passions, nurtured your friendships, and built a life that is exciting and full on its own. He has been watching from the sidelines and has seen you shining. The Queen of Wands upright indicates that he is genuinely attracted to this vibrant, self-assured version of you. He regrets pulling away because he sees what he is missing: a confident, magnetic partner who doesn’t need him, but might want him. His return is motivated by a renewed and authentic attraction to your fire.
Reversed Queen of Wands: A Return Fueled by Ego
When this vibrant Queen appears reversed, her energy becomes distorted, and so do the motives behind his return. A reversed Queen of Wands suggests his comeback is less about genuine attraction and more about ego, drama, or jealousy. He may have seen you thriving without him and couldn’t stand it. His return is an attempt to reclaim his position in your life and to see if he still has power over you. This card in reverse can signify jealousy, insecurity, and a tendency to be overly dramatic. Be cautious. He might be coming back to stir the pot, create chaos, or get an ego boost, only to pull away again once he feels he has your attention. The warmth of the upright card is replaced by a potentially destructive and self-serving fire.
The Powerful Symbolism of the Queen of Wands
To fully grasp the message, look at the card’s imagery. The Queen sits confidently on her throne, which is decorated with lions and sunflowers, symbols of courage and adoration. She holds a wand, representing her passion and creativity, and a sunflower, symbolizing her sunny disposition and ability to find joy. At her feet sits a black cat, a sign of her connection to her shadow side and her intuition—she is both light and mysterious. She faces forward, indicating she is open and engaged with the world. When this card appears for you, it means you are this Queen. You have been holding your own wand, cultivating your own joy, and sitting on your own throne. He isn’t just coming back to a person; he’s coming back to a whole damn kingdom you built yourself.
Why Your Confidence is the Ultimate Magnet
The core lesson of the Queen of Wands in this scenario is that true attraction stems from self-possession. People are drawn to those who are whole and happy on their own. While he was away, you weren’t pining; you were living. You were posting pictures of your adventures, excelling at work, and laughing with your friends. This energy is incredibly magnetic. The Queen of Wands doesn’t need external validation to feel worthy. Her confidence comes from within, from her passion for life itself. His return is proof of this universal law. He pulled away, and instead of chasing him, you invested that energy back into yourself, making yourself exponentially more attractive in the process.
This energy is often a key component in successful reunions, a concept touched upon in our article about the Queen of Wands as reconciliation.
Is His Return Genuine or Fleeting?
With the upright Queen of Wands, there is a strong potential for his return to be genuine. He is coming back because he sees your value and is captivated by your authentic energy. He is ready to be a more active participant. However, the card is not a guarantee of a “happily ever after.” It is a snapshot of the current energy. The reversed Queen of Wands, conversely, signals a high probability that his return is fleeting and based on selfish motives. He may disappear again as soon as his ego is satisfied or as soon as the drama dies down. In either orientation, the Queen’s advice is to judge him by his actions, not his words. Let him prove his intentions are honorable.
How to Handle His Return Like a Queen
This card is not just an explanation; it is an instruction manual. You must continue to embody the Queen of Wands energy now that he is back.
- Don’t Drop Everything: Do not cancel your plans or rearrange your life for him. Show him that you have a full, vibrant life that he is welcome to be a part of, but that does not revolve around him.
- Stay Centered: It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement or anxiety of a return. The Queen remains centered and confident. Acknowledge his return with warmth, but not with overwhelming enthusiasm. Be friendly, but let him do the pursuing.
- Hold Him to a Higher Standard: You have grown. You are now a Queen. You require a partner who is consistent, communicative, and ready to meet you at your level. Do not settle for the same behavior that caused him to pull away in the first place.
Queen of Wands as a Sign to Stay True to Yourself
Ultimately, this card is a celebration of you. His return is simply a side effect of your own personal growth and alignment. The biggest mistake you could make right now is to dim your own light in an effort to make him more comfortable or to ensure he stays. The Queen of Wands got you this far. Her energy is what brought him back. Therefore, continuing to be your authentic, passionate, and independent self is the only strategy you need. Your life is your masterpiece; he can either be a beautiful addition to the gallery or admire it from the visitor’s line. The choice is his, but the power is all yours.
For more on what this Queen looks for, see our guide on Queen of Wands as what someone wants.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What does the Queen of Wands think of me?
If this card represents his thoughts, he sees you as incredibly attractive, confident, fun, and maybe a little intimidating. He admires your passion and your ability to command attention effortlessly.
Is the Queen of Wands a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ card?
The Queen of Wands is a resounding ‘yes’ to questions involving confidence, social situations, creativity, and self-expression. It’s a green light to be bold and put yourself out there.
Can the Queen of Wands represent a third party?
Yes, in some contexts, the Queen of Wands can represent another person—either a rival or someone influencing the situation. However, when it appears in response to his return after pulling away, it is far more likely to be a reflection of your energy.
Conclusion
When he comes back and the Queen of Wands appears, it is a cosmic round of applause for you. It’s a sign that your focus on self-love, personal growth, and authentic living has paid off in the most magnetic way possible. His return is a testament to your shine. Your task now is not to question why he’s back, but to decide if he deserves to stay. Continue to rule your life with the courage, passion, and radiant confidence of this powerful Queen. Let him prove he is worthy to be in the presence of royalty.